Uppingham Surgery Bereavement Support
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We are here to help and support you through this difficult time.
The death of someone close can be shattering. Everyone experiences grief differently; there is no ‘normal’ or ‘right’ way to grieve. How we react will be influenced by many different things, including our age and personality, our cultural background and religious beliefs, our previous experiences of bereavement, our circumstances and how we cope with loss.
Shock: It may take you a long time to grasp what has happened. The shock can make you numb, and some people at first carry on as if nothing has happened. It is hard to believe that someone important is not coming back. Many people feel disorientated – as if they have lost their place and purpose in life or are living in a different world.
Pain: Feelings of pain and distress following bereavement can be overwhelming and very frightening.
Anger: Sometimes bereaved people can feel angry. This anger is a completely natural emotion, typical of the grieving process. Death can seem cruel and unfair, especially when you feel someone has died before their time or when you had plans for the future together. We may also feel angry towards the person who has died, or angry at ourselves for things we did or didn’t do or say to the person before their death.
Guilt: Guilt is another common reaction. People who have been bereaved of someone close often say they feel directly or indirectly to blame for the person’s death. You may also feel guilty if you had a difficult or confusing relationship with the person who has died, or if you feel you didn’t do enough to help them when they were alive.
Depression: Many bereaved people experience feelings of depression following the death of someone close. Life can feel like it no longer holds any meaning and some people say they too want to die.
Longing: Thinking you are hearing or seeing someone who has died is a common experience and can happen when you least expect it. You may find that you can’t stop thinking about the events leading up to the death. “Seeing” the person who has died and hearing their voice can happen because the brain is trying to process the death and acknowledge the finality of it.
Other people’s reactions: One of the hardest things to face when we are bereaved is the way other people react to us. They often do not know what to say or how to respond to our loss. Because they don’t know what to say or are worried about saying the wrong thing, people can avoid those who have lost someone. This is hard for us because we may well want to talk about the person who has died. It can become especially hard as time goes on and other people’s memories of the person who has died fade.
Rutland online Bereavement Help Point
Many of us are aware of the difficulty people face in coping with bereavement and the loneliness they can feel. Being able to talk to others in a similar situation can help, hence this is why we set up a Bereavement Help Point for the people of Rutland.
The service was initially set up for face-to-face support in Ketton. Due to Covid-19, we have had to rethink how we can continue supporting people, so like many other services, will be providing this online from 14th January 2021.
The Bereavement Help Point is an online drop-in service that aims to provide bereaved people with a place where they can access information and support, where they can talk to others and share their emotions with others in a safe online environment with other local people. It does not matter when your bereavement was it could have been very recently or several years ago the Help Point is for all.
The Help Point has been set up by local residents, Ketton Parish Council, LOROS, Sue Ryder Thorpe Hall and Dove Cottage, with support from Dying Matters in Rutland, the Whitebread Trust and Community Foundation.
It is run by volunteers who have undergone training and are supported by our local Hospices.
If you are bereaved and would like to come along the virtual Bereavement Help points run every 2 and 4 Thursday of the month 10-11:30am
If you would like to attend or would like further information about the Bereavement Help Point please ring 01572 722630 or email@example.com
The Good Grief Trust
One of the UK’s leading fully comprehensive online support websites, run by the bereaved for the bereaved.
Cruse Bereavement Care
0808 808 1677
Local service provide from the Leicester office. Can provide face to face or advice and support over the telephone.
Bereavement Advice Centre
0800 634 9494
Offers a free helpline for people who are bereaved. It has a lot of useful information on its website about practical matters and coping with grief.
Lets Talk Wellbeing
Free NHS resource. Offers a variety of support services (counselling, CBT, interpersonal psychotherapy)
0800 090 2309
Offer comprehensive support; with a selection of helpful information booklets, telephone support and online forums
Ketton has produced a leaflet for local support, please click here to view the leaflet.